by Molly West
It’s that time of the year again! Valentine’s Day is widely known as the most romantic time of the year. You can feel it in the air. Stores are packed with red and pink gifts and candies. Heart decorations are plastered everywhere you look. There are couples everywhere you go, showering each other with affection. It seems like the entire world is caught up in a whiff of infatuation and magic.
For any single person, however, this could be the saddest time of the year. Seeing all the happy couples reminds one of their crippling loneliness and everything about them that makes them unlovable. How do you cope with this inner turmoil? Here are some things you can do if you don’t have a special someone this year.
- Harness the power of friendship.
Who said Valentine’s Day was only about romantic love? Even if you don’t have a significant other, chances are you still have close friends who love you. While most of them probably have a special someone, there is bound to be at least one friend who can relate to your pain. You could just hang out with them, or you could also pretend to be a couple to wrack up as many discounts as possible. There’s plenty of fun things you can do with a friend and places you can go. Don’t have a close friend to spend the day yet? No worries.
- Watch a romantic movie.
This one is a double-edged sword. Sitting down with a good rom-com can lighten your spirits and give you that warm, fuzzy feeling. It can also make you yearn for a relationship, though, thus plunging you deeper into the depths of loneliness. Luckily, if you’re not much a romance person, there are other things you can do.
Restaurant discounts. Candy on sale. At the very least, you can eat away your pain. You’ll get back to eating healthy tomorrow, right? Besides, if you eat enough chocolate, it will simulate the feeling of being in love. Food will never betray you. Look at this example:
Chocolate never ends. There are other things you can do, though.
Because the dream person in your head is probably better than any real people, anyway. (Just don’t develop an unhealthy obsession and begin to believe they’re real)
- Treat yourself.
If you can’t love yourself, how are you going to love somebody else? Take a nice bath with bubbles. Prepare a candlelit dinner. Play some smooth jazz. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers. You have earned the right to treat yourself. While all these couples are out there pouring themselves into someone else, you have taken the bold choice to focus on the most important person in your life: you. Self-love is just as important as any other kind of love! Don’t get too narcissistic about it, though.
Sometimes, you just need to drown in your own sorrow for a bit, and that’s okay. Let it all out. Yes, you’re lonely, and nobody has a crush on you, but the world is still spinning. You’re going to wake up the morning after Valentine’s and love will be far less in-your-face. Besides, a lot of the couple you see will probably break up a week later.
At the end of the day, remember that you’re still in high school. There is no rush when it comes to getting into a relationship and finding your soulmate. Our emotions (?) are running wild, and love is still a foreign concept. If you’re alone this Valentine’s Day, it’s not the end of the world. There is more to life than romance.